Wednesday, August 24, 2005
Lifelong Expectations of Misery
I find being married wonderful, and I am irritated at the number of people with whom I have the following conversation:
"Oh, hey, how's married life treating you?"
"It's great!"
"Well, you say that now...."
-or-
"Well, just you wait...."
-or-
"Well, you ARE still newlyweds...."
And we are still newlyweds. But if we're waiting for anything it's that things, with our devotion and our effort and our care and love, will get better, not worse. What would happen if we really went around expecting things to be otherwise?
"Oh, hey, how's married life treating you?"
"It's great!"
"Well, you say that now...."
-or-
"Well, just you wait...."
-or-
"Well, you ARE still newlyweds...."
And we are still newlyweds. But if we're waiting for anything it's that things, with our devotion and our effort and our care and love, will get better, not worse. What would happen if we really went around expecting things to be otherwise?
Comments:
My family did that to us constantly...year after year. And finally they changed the rhetoric to "well, you may be happy now, but wait until you have kids..."
It makes other married people uncomfortable to see happy married people sometimes.
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It makes other married people uncomfortable to see happy married people sometimes.
